Forgive Or Forgo: Talk To Me About Your Breakup

Forgiving and forgetting is much easier said than done when you feel betrayed or unloved. If you can’t get past something your partner has or hasn’t done, it’s easy to become passive-aggressive. The impulse to punish your partner The fact that I hurt you is certainly understandable. However, make sure that your true desire is to destroy your relationship. Because that’s what that kind of behavior will do.

It is human nature to want to hurt the person who hurt you. I made a video in 2014 called Taking revenge on your ex when I first started my Youtube channel, and it was my most-viewed video for years. There really is a thin line between love and hate, because the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. Hate is a very strong emotion that makes you not care about your partner’s feelings or even wish him harm. If you feel this way about your partner, you really need to get out of this relationship. But I’m warning you: if you feel hate, it’s probably because you really love your partner.

If you struggle to forgive, That’s probably because anger is a much easier emotion to deal with for most people. Allow yourself to really do it; feeling your feelings takes more effort. But you have to decide what is deep in your heart. Do you still love your partner? What you really want is to feel loved again? Do you want to get past this and be happier than ever before?

The truth is that relationships can get better after a devastating heartbreak. You don’t always know how much someone really means to you until you lose him or her. Many couples never have frank conversations about their feelings until the relationship ends. Lack real communication is the reason why relationships fail. So if you want to make your relationship work, you need to be brutally honest with your partner about how you feel. Not to hurt them, but so they can understand you and make you feel loved.

You can make requests about how you want your partner to behave. If He cheated, you can ask him never to hang out with her again, or to do that too tell you right away about all the contact they have. If he’s willing to do that, it can show you how important you are to him. Whatever you need to feel better, you should share with your partner. Trust can be rebuilt, but it will take a lot of change.

Forgotten means you shift your focus to something else. Instead of focusing on how you were hurt, focus on all the good things about your partner. Write a professional list. Write on paper all the things you like about your relationship. Or write a love letter to your partner describing what you want the relationship to be like. Ask and you shall receive. It really can be that simple. After a devastating event, your partner must do everything he can to learn how to make you happy. If not, it’s time to end the relationship.

If you absolutely cannot get past your anger, then you need to get out of this relationship. No matter what your partner has done, it is never appropriate to be emotionally abusive. Acting passively and aggressively and punishing your partner is emotional abuse. If you can’t forgive, you have to give up being together. You need to let go and move on to find someone else who can make you happy. Or maybe you just need a break to regain clarity. I’ve always found tremendous wisdom in the old saying, “If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it’s yours, if not, it never was.”